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Father's Wise Words on Relationships
I come from a fairly conservative family, where dating is forbidden and interaction with the opposite sex is expected to be platonic or non-existent. Love is meant to be reserved solely for one's spouse. However, I was surprised to receive some valuable "relationship advice" from my father.
At one point, I was deeply concerned about a friend who was trapped in an abusive relationship. This situation was negatively impacting her productivity and friendships, and it left me feeling both frustrated and terrified for her.
During a vacation, I found myself discussing this matter with my mother (names omitted to protect privacy). Little did I know, my father was listening nearby, standing by the door. Knowing how Indian fathers typically don't engage in discussions about other people's boyfriends, I tried to change the topic immediately. But then my father spoke up, sharing these wise words:
"I've noticed something about young women. They're often made to believe it's their duty to save the men they're with. They think they must rescue them and give their lives purpose. These men convince the women that if they leave, they'll be responsible for their destruction. Somehow, it becomes the woman's responsibility to ensure the man becomes a better person.
I wish all girls knew this: it's not your job to save him, it's his own responsibility. If it's not you, he'll find someone else to anchor his responsibilities onto. Don't fall into the trap of playing the hero. Your only duty is to focus on your own growth and salvation.
A good man, someone worthy of you, will always respect that. Never compromise."
Those words resonated deeply with me. I've witnessed far too many women staying in toxic relationships because they believe that without them, their partners would fall apart. They feel obligated to keep them clean, out of trouble, and focused on self-improvement.
I will forever be grateful to my father for showing me a different perspective. He truly is the best dad ever!
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